When I first thought of prom as a young child I always dreamed it was this grand celebration where I would finally be an adult women. It was the night where i could do anything and I would be the Cinderella of the night. I would have my boyfriend (my date) pick me up in a limo, take photos in my pretty expensive dress, and party till the sun comes up. Everything would be perfect. I use to watch movies, and TV shows that would make me want to be grown already so I can finally experience this magical night. Going into high school this was a major topic in my head. I would discuss with my friends on what we would like to wear, who we wanted to ask us to prom, and any other fantasies we had because of these movies. Thinking of prom now i still have the same excitement to go and experience the big night.
With the discussions we had in class I never noticed how odd a prom could be to an outsider. Spending the minimum of $300 for just memories can seem highly dumb when you can use that money and buy something that you could personally use. Although they do say your memories of prom will last a lifetime. I immediately thought why do people never forget there prom night? Then I read in a article that prom night is considered a 'rite of passage', were you will leave the adolescent/high school life and enter the adult world were you formally gather with your friends and celebrate until midnight.
Personally even though it does seem ridiculous to spend over hundreds of dollars for a single night, I still can’t make the decision of not going. I feel I have to go, and I really want to go.
Do other countries have prom, if so how is it different from New York?
Why is prom a rite of passage?
Who invented the word prom and why did they choose to use the word prom to mean a prom?
Why does prom make you an adult?
Monday, May 23, 2011
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
xc - COTD2.
When watching Harold and Maude I found that the theme of the movie was polarity.
Harold who is a young man was obsessed with death. He meets Maude A 79 year old women who is obsessed with life, and experiencing all aspects of it, to the point of knowing what its like to steal a police car. Harolds mother seems to be the complete middle road in the fact that she is preoccupied with getting her son hooked up, with a women in the hopes that it will cure him of his obsession with death. Harolds mother goes as far as buying him a brand new Jaguar sports car which to me kind of symbolizes a kind of macho object as men like to use hot sports cars to pick women.
There is an irony in that Harold doesn’t begin to live, until he meets Maude who believes that no one should live beyond the age of eighty. In the movie Harold and Maude had sex and Harold wanted to marry Maude, but there was disgust from the families’ minister/priest.
When Maude OD’s on pills on her 80th birthday Harold learns the true meaning of life. Which is symbolized by him driving his Jaguar Hearst off of a cliff, and the closing scene of him walking away happily, to the Cats Steven closing song, means to me that Harold is now into living life to the fullest like Maude instead of dying, or being around death.
Harold who is a young man was obsessed with death. He meets Maude A 79 year old women who is obsessed with life, and experiencing all aspects of it, to the point of knowing what its like to steal a police car. Harolds mother seems to be the complete middle road in the fact that she is preoccupied with getting her son hooked up, with a women in the hopes that it will cure him of his obsession with death. Harolds mother goes as far as buying him a brand new Jaguar sports car which to me kind of symbolizes a kind of macho object as men like to use hot sports cars to pick women.
There is an irony in that Harold doesn’t begin to live, until he meets Maude who believes that no one should live beyond the age of eighty. In the movie Harold and Maude had sex and Harold wanted to marry Maude, but there was disgust from the families’ minister/priest.
When Maude OD’s on pills on her 80th birthday Harold learns the true meaning of life. Which is symbolized by him driving his Jaguar Hearst off of a cliff, and the closing scene of him walking away happily, to the Cats Steven closing song, means to me that Harold is now into living life to the fullest like Maude instead of dying, or being around death.
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
xc - COTD1
I thought a lot about what kind of headstone I would want to have if I did choose a burial. I saw in the second cemetery they had extravagant head stones. I don’t even think they should be called head stones, but more of sculptures. I wish I could of taken a picture of this particular one but since it was to far back and we couldn’t go inside I could only describe it. It was a gravestone that was taller then 6 feet and it was a sculpture of an angel and she was standing on a big slab of stone under her, which I am assuming was the information regarding who had passed on. Why would someone choose this type of head stone?
In conclusion viewing all these cemeteries really made me want to plan my death and how I would want it instead of leaving it to the hand of the government or even worse my family. Personally if I want a burial I think that I will go with an extravagant headstone that is not like any other out there in the world. It makes people view your grave and think about the person underneath you.
xc - COTD3
Before going to the bodies exhibit I was very skeptical on what my experience there was going to be like. I am extremely squeamish when it comes to body parts and blood so I already new that this was going to be a challenge for me. Surprisingly I found this experience fascinating and very educational but at the same time it also made me think about a lot of questions and made me very unsure about the morals of this exhibit.
The very first emotion that I had when seeing the their bodies was total disgust, I was actually contemplating leaving but considering I spent $30 for the admission ticket and I didn’t want to look like the squeamish one in front of all my friends, so I decided to tough it out. At first the experience for me was sort of like a bad car accident you know you shouldn’t look but you cant look away. For the longest time I was staring into the eyes of what looked like an Asian man in the sitting and thinking position and at a split second I went from thinking, “ this is weird and cool” to thinking,“ at one time this was a living person”. I can understand the argument that this museum could be for educational purposes and a lot of people learn visually so going to this museum of bodies would be more educational than looking at the book “ The human anatomy”. This whole experience got me thinking, in order for someone to make this museum they had to get the bodies from another country? Why? In the United States there has been 1,173 legal executions since September 1 2009, that’s enough bodies to make 5 museums, considering the NYC museum has 200 bodies. So why china? My first thought was there would be no way people would go to this museum if they knew it was American bodies because that would just make us look barbaric. So I decided to try in find out why they used bodies from china and the answer became very clear to me, because there is no real answer. They actually never make it clear where these bodies actually come from, all they say is “Although all the bodies are unclaimed and from the Chinese police, Premier could not independently verify more about them, such as whether the bodies are of prisoners that were executed by the Chinese government.” “This exhibit displays human remains of Chinese citizens or residents which were originally received by the Chinese Bureau of Police. The Chinese Bureau of Police may receive bodies from Chinese prisons. Premier cannot independently verify that the human remains you are viewing are not those of persons who were incarcerated in Chinese prisons.” When I went to the website of Bodies nowhere could I find a explanation of where there bodies came from, the condition these people were in before they died, and what was the cause of execution, all valid questions I would like to know before looking at an exhibit I know nothing about. One argument I heard constantly on Internet forums, not even a website I can properly quote was that these prisoners have signed a document stating that the Chinese government can use there bodies for experiments. Assuming that’s true that still does not explain why we can’t do that to our own American executed bodies. At least using American bodies would make the exhibit more interracial. I believe the Chinese government is lying about the conditions of the bodies, lying about the sort of treatment these prisoners have had and the owners of this museum know it. They know by using American bodies the public would be so far up there ass they would never be able to get this museum up and running.
In conclusion I found the Bodies exhibit very fascinating, but at the same time it made me feel like what I was looking at was morally wrong because I don’t know the full truth of where these bodies actually come from, and I suspect I never will. I think the idea of bodies is interesting but I find the search of the truth behind bodies more interesting.
HW 55 - Culminating Project - Care of the Dead
For my project on the care of the dead I decided to interview my family. Unfortunately they didn’t want to be filmed. I wanted to hear about what my parents wanted to happen after they die because after hearing the first funeral director who came in he really made me think about what I wanted to do. I went to my mom and asked her, she flat out said “god forbid Lora! Please don’t talk about death” This struck my mind. I thought back to when death was always brought up, my mom felt the need to change the subject as soon as she could. This made me change my project to why are people afraid to talk about death? I asked my family this and they all seemed to have the same exact answer. “Its like a curse”. They feel that if talking about it enough, it’s going to eventually happen. Then I brought up the point “well aren’t we going to die anyway?” Then they gave me a look.
When I visited my grandmother recently I brought up the topic to her, and what I was thinking of doing when I pass on. She got up and hit me. She said “Never talk about you dying, say god forbid a thousand times over”, and I did. She didn’t want to talk about her plans or anyone in the families for that matter. But I find her using death as a way to get what she wants. She will tell me “I’m old”, “I don’t have enough time”, “I’m going to be a little star in the sky looking down on you” in order to get the family to do what ever she wants, and not surprisingly we do it. We do it because in the slight chance she is right I don’t want that feeling of “she told me so” or for her to feel we wouldn’t care if she died.
I wish that when I was younger my family had been very open with death. When my grandmother passed away it was very hard on the family. It was the biggest loss I had ever had; I didn’t know how to handle it except through mixed emotion. I know now that home funerals help with the grieving process, I also know what’s going on to my loved one while in the mortuary, all this insight I learned from this unit will help me in the future with the grieving process and help me talk about it before it happens, so I can get closure.
When I visited my grandmother recently I brought up the topic to her, and what I was thinking of doing when I pass on. She got up and hit me. She said “Never talk about you dying, say god forbid a thousand times over”, and I did. She didn’t want to talk about her plans or anyone in the families for that matter. But I find her using death as a way to get what she wants. She will tell me “I’m old”, “I don’t have enough time”, “I’m going to be a little star in the sky looking down on you” in order to get the family to do what ever she wants, and not surprisingly we do it. We do it because in the slight chance she is right I don’t want that feeling of “she told me so” or for her to feel we wouldn’t care if she died.
I wish that when I was younger my family had been very open with death. When my grandmother passed away it was very hard on the family. It was the biggest loss I had ever had; I didn’t know how to handle it except through mixed emotion. I know now that home funerals help with the grieving process, I also know what’s going on to my loved one while in the mortuary, all this insight I learned from this unit will help me in the future with the grieving process and help me talk about it before it happens, so I can get closure.
Sunday, May 8, 2011
HW 52 - Third Third of the COTD Book
In the last part of Morticians Diaries by June knights Nadle its describes the experiences she has been through while being a mortician,
“I have cried myself dry on his shoulder” p93
he counseled those assembled to remember that the quality of life was more important than the quantity.” p 94
he gave me his vital statistics, said he preferred to be cremated, and then said that the service details could be decided by his parents or sister. P 103
“These are difficult cases we handle these days p106
“This mother lost her son twice-once by her own rejection and then by his death’p107
…:I Was intrigued with the Japanese sections strange decorations. Often food was at the head of the grave…p111
“my mother was in the hospital on life support for two weeks. The doctor recommended removing life support for two weeks”
In the last part of the book a few stories really stuck out to me. There was one story about a gay man and his parents disowned him because of it. But when the mother heard he was dying he didn’t want her to see him like that and he also didn’t want anyone to see his dead body. The gay man named Gary and his partner was Boyd. The mother of Gary tried to press charges against the partner because she felt she had rights as a mother to see her son. But they hired a durable power of attorney that allowed Gary’s wishes to remain, this confused me a little on what durable power of attorney does.
“I have cried myself dry on his shoulder” p93
he counseled those assembled to remember that the quality of life was more important than the quantity.” p 94
he gave me his vital statistics, said he preferred to be cremated, and then said that the service details could be decided by his parents or sister. P 103
“These are difficult cases we handle these days p106
“This mother lost her son twice-once by her own rejection and then by his death’p107
…:I Was intrigued with the Japanese sections strange decorations. Often food was at the head of the grave…p111
“my mother was in the hospital on life support for two weeks. The doctor recommended removing life support for two weeks”
In the last part of the book a few stories really stuck out to me. There was one story about a gay man and his parents disowned him because of it. But when the mother heard he was dying he didn’t want her to see him like that and he also didn’t want anyone to see his dead body. The gay man named Gary and his partner was Boyd. The mother of Gary tried to press charges against the partner because she felt she had rights as a mother to see her son. But they hired a durable power of attorney that allowed Gary’s wishes to remain, this confused me a little on what durable power of attorney does.
Friday, May 6, 2011
HW 51 - Second Third of COTD Book
In the second part of the book of morticians diaries by June Knights Nadle, you read stories of families who have been through the loss of loved ones. Although in some of the stories you don't hear the "traditional" morning going on. In one of the stories a widow named Janice Bott lost her husband named Andrew had passed. He didnt want a funeral service at all."with Andrew gone I'm so lonely I could die" p50 But instead of a funeral they planned a mass for a whole weeek then after everyone would go out to eat. "People talked, laughed, and simply enjoyed the hour together with food and drink." p51. I have yet to seen or been to a service and seen people basically have fun. Later in the storie she mentions how everything helped her with her husbands passing. This made me think that maybe the issue of a funeral service has a lot to do with how a person will copp with the death of a lost one.
"thanks for encouraging me to come today. instead of forgetting it all happened, i feel good remembering some wonderful times, too. p57
"unresolved grief or anger can create behavioral, mental, and health problems over time." p69
"thanks for encouraging me to come today. instead of forgetting it all happened, i feel good remembering some wonderful times, too. p57
"unresolved grief or anger can create behavioral, mental, and health problems over time." p69
Monday, May 2, 2011
HW 49 - Comments on Best of Your Break HW
Stephen,
I totally agree with what you said in the first paragraph. In my family once someone has passed on, you could never mention any negative things that the person who passed on has done in his/her lifetime. They feel its highly disrespectful. Also i agree with the fact that the fear of the unknown plays a huge role with copping with death. I can connect to your own experiences in which a person would look a lot better (lets say during their wake) then they did before they died. That happened to my grandmother. Overall i thought you kept everything interesting and i found myself thinking a lot about my own experiences, and when you brought up passed class conversations like with what sam said showed how learning all this or even just discussing it makes you question all the "normal" things about death you thought were normal. well done!
Beatrice,
I like how you incorporated how your family does something different that isn't really heard in American society. I feel that people should be upset about people who have passed but celebrate the life that they did have. Also i loved how you mentioned religion, and how that plays such a significant role in dying and what you want to be done to your dead body. I loved how you took what your moms views are and based on your personal views you interpreted your own meaning. Overall i liked your post and it changed me perspective a little
I totally agree with what you said in the first paragraph. In my family once someone has passed on, you could never mention any negative things that the person who passed on has done in his/her lifetime. They feel its highly disrespectful. Also i agree with the fact that the fear of the unknown plays a huge role with copping with death. I can connect to your own experiences in which a person would look a lot better (lets say during their wake) then they did before they died. That happened to my grandmother. Overall i thought you kept everything interesting and i found myself thinking a lot about my own experiences, and when you brought up passed class conversations like with what sam said showed how learning all this or even just discussing it makes you question all the "normal" things about death you thought were normal. well done!
Beatrice,
I like how you incorporated how your family does something different that isn't really heard in American society. I feel that people should be upset about people who have passed but celebrate the life that they did have. Also i loved how you mentioned religion, and how that plays such a significant role in dying and what you want to be done to your dead body. I loved how you took what your moms views are and based on your personal views you interpreted your own meaning. Overall i liked your post and it changed me perspective a little
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
HW 47 - Peer Perspectives on the Care of the Dead (this one)
The first person I asked was a very close friend of mines. Her family has similar views that my family has. I asked her when she dies how does she want to be handled like, being buried, or cremation. She couldn’t decide. She was explaining on how she’s scared of cremation because she hates the idea of her body going up in flames, but likes the idea of spreading her ashes. When she thinks about being buried she hates the idea of being 6 feet under, but then again her family is more towards a burial, in the fact that its more traditional. I too find myself in this predicament. But I feel that the third person I interviewed really helped me in a decision.
The second person I talked to had a whole new idea that I never heard of. He wanted to have his body be stripped naked and put in woods for the crows and animals to feed off of his body. I was shocked when I heard this. I never thought about doing that. My immediate reactions was my body being mutilated, but then again no matter what you choose it’s not going to be always in perfect condition. I asked him why he chose this and he said because Indians did it a long time ago and it could feed other animals. He is also a very spiritual person, and doesn't believe in religion.
The third person I asked was 110% for cremation. She wanted to have all her loved ones have her ashes so she can feel that she is always with her family. She also gets nervous when she is around dead people. Ever since she was a young child she would have a temper tantrum when she would go to funerals. She hates the idea of burial because she also feel that her body wouldn’t let go of her soul and her soul would be trapped in her body 6 feet deep on the earth. This person really influenced my decision in choosing cremation. I’m a spiritual person too so I think I’m going to have to do more research.
The fourth person that I interviewed was thinking about donating his body so that scientist can use it. He knew that his body would “rot” so he said you might as well use it for something good. He is also a biology lover (so that may have influenced his decision), and is an atheist. It made a lot of sense on why someone would do this. I see how religion plays a huge roll in care of the dead. I would like to see more evidence towards this.
The second person I talked to had a whole new idea that I never heard of. He wanted to have his body be stripped naked and put in woods for the crows and animals to feed off of his body. I was shocked when I heard this. I never thought about doing that. My immediate reactions was my body being mutilated, but then again no matter what you choose it’s not going to be always in perfect condition. I asked him why he chose this and he said because Indians did it a long time ago and it could feed other animals. He is also a very spiritual person, and doesn't believe in religion.
The third person I asked was 110% for cremation. She wanted to have all her loved ones have her ashes so she can feel that she is always with her family. She also gets nervous when she is around dead people. Ever since she was a young child she would have a temper tantrum when she would go to funerals. She hates the idea of burial because she also feel that her body wouldn’t let go of her soul and her soul would be trapped in her body 6 feet deep on the earth. This person really influenced my decision in choosing cremation. I’m a spiritual person too so I think I’m going to have to do more research.
The fourth person that I interviewed was thinking about donating his body so that scientist can use it. He knew that his body would “rot” so he said you might as well use it for something good. He is also a biology lover (so that may have influenced his decision), and is an atheist. It made a lot of sense on why someone would do this. I see how religion plays a huge roll in care of the dead. I would like to see more evidence towards this.
HW 46 - Initial Thoughts on the Care of the Dead
The first time I dealt with death was when I was 4 and my family dog passed away. All I remember was knowing that I wouldn’t see her again but at the same time I was told she was going to be in a better place. When I thought about this it made me think about…
~What do parents normally tell their children about death at a young age?
~What do children think about death?
The last time I had to deal with death was when my grandmother passed away. It was very hard on my family. Especially in the fact that my dad had to bury his mom on his birthday. To this day we barely celebrate his birthday because of that fact. We had a traditional funeral and after the wake and funeral we took everyone out to eat at my grandmothers favorite restaurant. When I heard that “we” were paying I found that to be unfair.
~Who invented the traditional aspects of a funeral?
~Why do Catholics feel the need to stare at a body for 3 days?
~What do parents normally tell their children about death at a young age?
~What do children think about death?
The last time I had to deal with death was when my grandmother passed away. It was very hard on my family. Especially in the fact that my dad had to bury his mom on his birthday. To this day we barely celebrate his birthday because of that fact. We had a traditional funeral and after the wake and funeral we took everyone out to eat at my grandmothers favorite restaurant. When I heard that “we” were paying I found that to be unfair.
~Who invented the traditional aspects of a funeral?
~Why do Catholics feel the need to stare at a body for 3 days?
Monday, April 4, 2011
HW 36 - Pregnancy & Birth Stories
Mom
Q: How did pregnancy affect you?
A: I was very emotional, hungry, tired, and achy.
Q: what was easy about your pregnancy?
A: Telling your father to help me with things I couldn’t do so easily anymore.
Q: What was difficult about your pregnancy?
A: Food! I could stand eggs, or coffee.
Q: what craving would you get?
A: When I was pregnant with you all I would want to eat is pizza. With your brother I didn’t have craving till after I gave birth.
Q: How was morning sickness?
A: Horrible. I don’t know why they call it morning sickness because it lasted all 9 months.
Q: What memories come back to you when you remember your pregnancy and the whole birthing process?
A: Happiness of having a baby but also scared of losing you and your brother. Both pregnancies I had to have a c-section and we had a lot complication in both pregnancies. I also remember when you would moving and turn and kick.
Q: What thoughts & feelings helped you chose to have two kids?
A: We felt ready for a family, and we both wanted a girl and boy. Young kids demand attention so we felt that spacing it out 4 years would be perfect.
Jennifer
Q: How did pregnancy affect you?
A: It made my spine straight. My pelvis is narrower.
Q: what was easy about your pregnancy?
A: No morning sickness at all. My boyfriends was there too, and his family.
Q: What was difficult about your pregnancy?
A: How big I was. It got in the way when I would sleep, my feet would hurt.
Q: what craving would you get?
A: I couldn’t stop eating ice cream. Chocolate to be more specific.
Q: How was morning sickness?
A: Great. Didn’t have any. But I know people who did and they said they literally wish they were dead.
Q: What memories come back to you when you remember your pregnancy and the whole birthing process?
A: Swollen feet, heat and cold flashes, a lot of discomfort, but at the end of the day I was just waiting to see her.
Q: What thoughts & feelings helped you chose to have one kid?
A: Well Hayley wasn’t planned but I didn’t want an abortion so I decided to keep her. But once I have the money I would like to have a son.
Anonymous
Q: How is pregnancy affecting you?
A: I get very sick. Physically I feel tired, and weak, but then I get happy just because of the littlest things.
Q: What is easy about your pregnancy?
A: The endless help I have. My family is so supportive.
Q: What is difficult about your pregnancy?
A: The morning sickness. I feel like I’m slowly dying.
Q: what craving would you get?
A: Junk Food! All I would want is some junk food.
Q: How is morning sickness?
A: Disgusting. But I do smoke marijuana that helps a lot. It takes away stress pain and nausea.
Q: Don’t you get scared of birthing issues or your child having complications because you smoke marijuana while your pregnant?
A: Not. Look it up no connection. If anything it’s helping the baby. I use a vapor so that the smoke doesn’t hurt the baby and I only do it when I seriously need it.
Q: What thoughts & feelings helped you chose to have a kid so young?
A: PROLIFE. Just because I’m young doesn’t mean I can kill a baby…my baby.
When I was interviewing the person who wants to remain Anonymous she felt very proud of the situation she’s in. She’s going to be a teen mother and is going to go through a lot but when you talk to her she seems proud and she’s not embarrassed of her situation.
I feel proud that she feels that way and I did look up marijuana and birth defect and there where none that I found. I found this to be highly interesting.
Q: How did pregnancy affect you?
A: I was very emotional, hungry, tired, and achy.
Q: what was easy about your pregnancy?
A: Telling your father to help me with things I couldn’t do so easily anymore.
Q: What was difficult about your pregnancy?
A: Food! I could stand eggs, or coffee.
Q: what craving would you get?
A: When I was pregnant with you all I would want to eat is pizza. With your brother I didn’t have craving till after I gave birth.
Q: How was morning sickness?
A: Horrible. I don’t know why they call it morning sickness because it lasted all 9 months.
Q: What memories come back to you when you remember your pregnancy and the whole birthing process?
A: Happiness of having a baby but also scared of losing you and your brother. Both pregnancies I had to have a c-section and we had a lot complication in both pregnancies. I also remember when you would moving and turn and kick.
Q: What thoughts & feelings helped you chose to have two kids?
A: We felt ready for a family, and we both wanted a girl and boy. Young kids demand attention so we felt that spacing it out 4 years would be perfect.
Jennifer
Q: How did pregnancy affect you?
A: It made my spine straight. My pelvis is narrower.
Q: what was easy about your pregnancy?
A: No morning sickness at all. My boyfriends was there too, and his family.
Q: What was difficult about your pregnancy?
A: How big I was. It got in the way when I would sleep, my feet would hurt.
Q: what craving would you get?
A: I couldn’t stop eating ice cream. Chocolate to be more specific.
Q: How was morning sickness?
A: Great. Didn’t have any. But I know people who did and they said they literally wish they were dead.
Q: What memories come back to you when you remember your pregnancy and the whole birthing process?
A: Swollen feet, heat and cold flashes, a lot of discomfort, but at the end of the day I was just waiting to see her.
Q: What thoughts & feelings helped you chose to have one kid?
A: Well Hayley wasn’t planned but I didn’t want an abortion so I decided to keep her. But once I have the money I would like to have a son.
Anonymous
Q: How is pregnancy affecting you?
A: I get very sick. Physically I feel tired, and weak, but then I get happy just because of the littlest things.
Q: What is easy about your pregnancy?
A: The endless help I have. My family is so supportive.
Q: What is difficult about your pregnancy?
A: The morning sickness. I feel like I’m slowly dying.
Q: what craving would you get?
A: Junk Food! All I would want is some junk food.
Q: How is morning sickness?
A: Disgusting. But I do smoke marijuana that helps a lot. It takes away stress pain and nausea.
Q: Don’t you get scared of birthing issues or your child having complications because you smoke marijuana while your pregnant?
A: Not. Look it up no connection. If anything it’s helping the baby. I use a vapor so that the smoke doesn’t hurt the baby and I only do it when I seriously need it.
Q: What thoughts & feelings helped you chose to have a kid so young?
A: PROLIFE. Just because I’m young doesn’t mean I can kill a baby…my baby.
When I was interviewing the person who wants to remain Anonymous she felt very proud of the situation she’s in. She’s going to be a teen mother and is going to go through a lot but when you talk to her she seems proud and she’s not embarrassed of her situation.
I feel proud that she feels that way and I did look up marijuana and birth defect and there where none that I found. I found this to be highly interesting.
Homework 35- Other Peoples' Perspectives 1
Stephen, (BROTHER)20
Q: Do you want kids?
A: No. Too much stuff to deal with, to much financial stress and I don’t want to deal with a baby having health issues,
Q: Are you pro life of pro choice?
A: prolife
Q: Why do you think people have kids?
A: Well for many reasons, depending on the situation, a girl would want to trap a guy with a baby, or to have a family, and people who believe in prolife.
Q: What would you say is the appropriate age to have kids?
A: When they are stable enough, to properly support all of the financial needs and emotional needs. But even if they have that at 18 and have all that I don’t think they should. At least over 25.
Joshua, (FRIEND)16
Q: Do you want kids?A: Yeah. I want sons.
Q: How many?
A: 5
Q: Why do you want kids?
A: To pass my name down, have a family.
Q: What values do you want to install in your kids?
A: Never hit or disrespect a woman. Imma teach them proper manors.
Q: How old do you want to be when you have kids?
A: 27-30
Q: What kind of things will you teach your sons?
A: Baseball, sports, manly things
Leah, (COUSIN)17
Q: Do you want kids?A: Yes. I want four girls.
Q: How old do you want to be when you have kids?
A: 22
Q: Why do you want kids?
A: I want my own cute family. I want to accomplish the American dream.
Q: Why do you want kids at 22?
A: I want to see them grow up as much as I could. Also its better for my body when you get pregnant younger.
Q: Where do you want to raise your kids? Why?
A: Country. I feel like they would have a better life style then the city, they seem more family based.
Korinn (FRIEND) 16
Q: Do you want kids?A: yes, most definitely.
Q: How many boys? How many girls?
A: 3 girls, 2 boys.
Q: How old do you want to be when you have kids?
A: Young.
Q: How young?
A: Whenever I have the money.
Q: So if your 19 and have money you will do it?
A: Yes.
I noticed while asking these questions that the my cousin Leah and my friend Korinn seemed happy and energetic when talking about having kids. They had a smile when we would go more into what kind of names they would pick.
I noticed with the boys that they had a attitude like you shouldn’t be asking me this. They also both seemed to be playing with their hands when they would answer.
Sunday, February 27, 2011
HW 34 - Some Initial Thoughts On Birth
the first response that i have when i think of birth is the whole scene of when the doctors and everyone in the birthing room yell "push, push" and the baby finally comes out. I think of the pain and the joy of brining another life in this world, and the later affect of when the child is starting to get in the state of constantly asking 'what is this' or 'what does this do'.
As i see shows on tv i feel as if the decisions that some people make are not for the better of everyone. Some families welcome a new baby even though they are not financially stable. I have seen and even know a lot of people who make this mistake. Everyone on their life is going to go through a time where they are going through tuff times financially, so why bring another mouth to feed when you cant even feed yourself?
How many women die during birth?
what is the average percentage of women who can not give birth?
what cultures are pro life and what are pro choice?
when did the epidural become discovered?
how many women give birth at home verses at the hospital?
what is the pregnancy rate in the us?
how many women actually give birth naturally?
how necessary is a doctor?
As i see shows on tv i feel as if the decisions that some people make are not for the better of everyone. Some families welcome a new baby even though they are not financially stable. I have seen and even know a lot of people who make this mistake. Everyone on their life is going to go through a time where they are going through tuff times financially, so why bring another mouth to feed when you cant even feed yourself?
How many women die during birth?
what is the average percentage of women who can not give birth?
what cultures are pro life and what are pro choice?
when did the epidural become discovered?
how many women give birth at home verses at the hospital?
what is the pregnancy rate in the us?
how many women actually give birth naturally?
how necessary is a doctor?
Sunday, January 23, 2011
HW 29 - Reading and noting basic materials
Facing Terminal Illness
In the book Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom you see the struggle and courage of a man who is dying of amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, which basically eats away your muscles. You see his loved ones say their goodbyes and Morries dedication to make his mark in the world and wanted to leave something behind when he passed away. You see Morrie embrace his illness and use his days left as an advantage which many of people have a hard time doing.
When Beth came in she spoke about her husband who died of cancer. She discussed how Erik’s body changed through out the whole situation. Erik didn't want to visit a doctor. He just thought that his body would heal itself. It became so bad that he couldn't even sleep laying down he had to sleep bent over. Erik for the longest time didn't want to admit that he was ill, his family didn't even use words like death, because it was uncomfortable to even say it. In this situation you see the struggle of admitting that you are sick and that you are going to die sooner then you ever expected.
Being Sick
When someone is sick the first thing that a person would normally do is go to the doctor. The doctor would then check to see if you have a sore throat, ear infection, and high temp, ETC. These are the normal aspects of trying to get your body healthy, and back to normal. I interviewed my grandmother who visits the doctor at least once a week, I asked her why does she always go to the doctors and she said because she wants to live as long as she can, and watch her grandkids grow-up, get married and have their kids. People seriously trust their lives in strangers hands and expect them to do whatever they can to keep you alive. But when you actually think about it how can you fully trust these people. I heard a story on the TV show Doctors about a women who was having pain on her ovary and she talked to her doctor and visited multiple times because of pain and he just blew it off and said it was nothing, she went to another doctor and she found out she had a cyst that grew into a tumor and it was too late to do anything, she died later to ovarian cancer. This type of stuff scares me because why should I trust anyone with my life.
The process of dying
When my grandmother passed away she was on life support for about 3 days. During the last day or two days we went to the local funeral home and we started planning the funeral. It was very hard planning her death when she was semi alive. I hoped, dreamed, and prayed for her to get back to normal and just take her back home. We took her off life support because my family and I thought it was inhumane. After we took her off the next time I saw her was in the funeral home. We had The Wake for two or three days where everyone would pay their resects and visit her body, and prey over her. The priest came and talked about her as if he knew her, then he discussed her going to heaven and drinking tea with Jesus. When I heard this I couldn't get it out of my mind. I then thought about what would my grandmother say if she heard that. She would definitely say, " I would rather be with my family and eat a bug Italian feast". After the priest talked we proceeded to the cemetery, where my step-grandfather is buried. I thought that it was very sweet that she wanted to be next to him. I didn't think that they had that kind of relationship. Every once a month we try and visit her grave, although I can't remember the last time I was there. I just don't like to say I visited her when all I did was stare at a stone with her name on it and the day she was born and the day she died. I also think I don't visit it because its hard for me to see that and say that’s my grandma. The normal aspects of dying is planning their funeral where everyone would come see pray and then go to the cemetery where they will be buried, and later visit their grave ever so often.
Sunday, January 9, 2011
HW 28 - Comments 2
Jessica, i got a lot of emotions when reading your post. I wouldn't know how to feel if i found out i had cancer at the age of 14. I would like to know what her emotions and thoughts were when finding this out on such a young age. I like how in the second paragraph you stated "she doesnt seem to be a big fan in resting too much because she figures she would rest forever when she does die one day. she had even made a bucket list." This inspires me.
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Jayson, i can relate because my dad has type 2 diabetes. He has to watch everything he eats and keeps a blood sugar diary and takes his blood sugar everyday with the blood glucose monitor system. We now need to buy all sugar free foods. Overall i liked your post.
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Jayson, i can relate because my dad has type 2 diabetes. He has to watch everything he eats and keeps a blood sugar diary and takes his blood sugar everyday with the blood glucose monitor system. We now need to buy all sugar free foods. Overall i liked your post.
HW 27 - Visiting an unwell person
I visited my grandmother who has parkinson's disease. She has it very bad. Her head shakes all the time and her hands. I always remembered having this, but as i got older her parkinson's got worse. As i got older i realized how difficult it is for her to do things. Every holiday i got a card with money and she always tries to write something from the heart. As her parkinson's disease started to progress worse and worse her notes in the cards started to get less and less. No all she write is Love Grandma and Nonno.
It breaks my heart to see her struggle with the everyday things she used to do. After reading Tuesdays with Morrie i looked at dyeing in a whole new way. I want to seriously live each day as it was my last. I also want to visit my family more. I wanted my grandparents to have as much fun with my family as they could. My grandfather now wants to go to disney world. But its very hard for him to walk so it is very unlikely for all of us to go. Its really sad to see them so helpless. When the majority of my life they seemed completely fine. But i guess as a kid you aren't really focusing on illness and dyeing around you, so everyone seems healthy.
This makes me wanna work out to have great muscular control and I try to stay healthy to prevent any illness.
It breaks my heart to see her struggle with the everyday things she used to do. After reading Tuesdays with Morrie i looked at dyeing in a whole new way. I want to seriously live each day as it was my last. I also want to visit my family more. I wanted my grandparents to have as much fun with my family as they could. My grandfather now wants to go to disney world. But its very hard for him to walk so it is very unlikely for all of us to go. Its really sad to see them so helpless. When the majority of my life they seemed completely fine. But i guess as a kid you aren't really focusing on illness and dyeing around you, so everyone seems healthy.
This makes me wanna work out to have great muscular control and I try to stay healthy to prevent any illness.
Sunday, January 2, 2011
HW 26 - Looking back & forward in unit
One important lesson that i learned this unit was hearing Beth Bernett speak about her experiences with her husband Eric Wood who passed away. She mentioned something that really made me think. She said it took 11 months to get health insurance that would successfully cover everything thing that Eric needed in the rest of time time her had.
Another insightful lesson that i learned this unit was when we watched Near Death by Fredrick Wiseman released 1989. Fredrick Wiseman wanted us to look at the doctors view and the doctors experiences of what happens when taking care of many sick patients. This made me feel the frustration and heartbreak of taking care of seriously sick people who are putting their life in the doctors hands.
Michael Moores big perspective of the movie sicko that was released out in 2007 was that the untied states should have free health care. In the movie its talks about how if you had a preexisting condition the chances of getting health insurance is ver VERY slim. A women had Blue Cross health insurance got a letter saying they are dropping her because years ago she had a yeast infection.
When i read the book Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom it made me look at death and life in a whole new way. On page 57 "its horrible if you watch my body slowly wilt away to nothing. But its wonderful because of all the time i get to say good-bye. This made me ask the question of how would i prefer to die. Quickly and fast of suffering but being able to say my good-byes? Still to this day i haven't come to the conclusion of which one i would prefer.
I think that two major subjects that we need to cover is what happens to the dead before the funeral. I also would like to know more about the body and time after being buried, and what happens when it decomposes. I wanna know this because after my grandma passed away i became curious as to what is happening to her.
The source that helped me the most this unit was watching the movies. I like too see things visually. It makes me more intoned with with the situation.
Another insightful lesson that i learned this unit was when we watched Near Death by Fredrick Wiseman released 1989. Fredrick Wiseman wanted us to look at the doctors view and the doctors experiences of what happens when taking care of many sick patients. This made me feel the frustration and heartbreak of taking care of seriously sick people who are putting their life in the doctors hands.
Michael Moores big perspective of the movie sicko that was released out in 2007 was that the untied states should have free health care. In the movie its talks about how if you had a preexisting condition the chances of getting health insurance is ver VERY slim. A women had Blue Cross health insurance got a letter saying they are dropping her because years ago she had a yeast infection.
When i read the book Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom it made me look at death and life in a whole new way. On page 57 "its horrible if you watch my body slowly wilt away to nothing. But its wonderful because of all the time i get to say good-bye. This made me ask the question of how would i prefer to die. Quickly and fast of suffering but being able to say my good-byes? Still to this day i haven't come to the conclusion of which one i would prefer.
I think that two major subjects that we need to cover is what happens to the dead before the funeral. I also would like to know more about the body and time after being buried, and what happens when it decomposes. I wanna know this because after my grandma passed away i became curious as to what is happening to her.
The source that helped me the most this unit was watching the movies. I like too see things visually. It makes me more intoned with with the situation.
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